Self-Loathing : A Way Out

This is not easy to talk about. 

If you’re someone with a high level of self-esteem or confidence, there is no reason to keep reading, the rest of this will sound crazy. 

If you have low self-worth and struggle with accepting the fact you are capable of anything, then you are in the right place. 

This is not meant to be a pity party or a cry for reassurance. 

It is tough love directed at me, publicly displayed for personal accountability and with hopes, it might help someone else out there trying to address similar issues in their own life.  

Self-loathing will always be the easy way out. 

Standing behind something you do or create is a million times harder. 

Taking the easy way out will get you nowhere.

Talking about how dissatisfied you are with yourself or your life, is annoying. People don’t want to hear it, especially your friends and loved ones.

There is a difference between cocky and tastefully confident; they are not the same; don’t pretend that they are. 

Plenty of people can accept that they are good at something and no one hates them for it. 

Remain humble. Take the compliment, say thank you, and move on. 

Your self-hatred brings everyone around you down. 

The higher up you go in an organization, the more people your negative feelings will effect. This is your problem, don’t make them deal with it too. 

Yes, you’ve spent your whole life being this way and are doing okay.

Imagine how much further you’d be if you believed in yourself the whole time. 

Change is possible. 

I’m thirty-three years late to the game, but I am choosing to tackle this now for two reasons: 

1. I’m setting out to be self-sufficient with something of my own. I am going to need the ability to pitch my worth to clients and show them what I’m capable of. It will require self-confidence.

2. I am very soon to be a father, and my wife sometimes asks, “How do you want our child to think about themselves? Do you want them to take after you?”

The second one is hard to swallow, and more than enough reason for me to make a change. 

For anyone out there reading.

If any of this hits home. 

You’ll find your reasons too.

Your happiness is reason enough.